It’s unhealthy to…

‘Just look at her,she is so good at studies! And you?’

‘She represents and mixes up with people so nicely and you,don’t even know how to talk properly with people!’

These small compliments lead to insecurities and we never know when comparison results in anxiety. One might start comparing their experiences and situations with the other. If we fail at achieving something one may end up thinking,’ No matter how hard I try, I am not gonna reach that level!’.

If one succeeds then the game of proving other individual, inferior begins. ‘I beat her in this, I am more better and capable than him/her. This makes us feel a certain kind of rush, motivation and excitement to do more things, which isn’t long lasting. It’s just for a time period! So the attitude of comparison won’t help.

Don’t waste your energy in comparing! Try to invest that energy to be more better…

I also had(and still may have at some point!)this habit of comparison. Every small feeling made me compare it to others. For example, I had a bad day. So, I would think that there are many people out there who have more big problems than I have in my life’. This made me even more unhappy.

I am just trying to say that don’t compare yourself to others. Your journey and experiences are totally different from your friend. So don’t start measuring your problems with others. Comparison is healthy for taking inspiration and learning from the other individual. There is no one superior or inferior!

I read somewhere,’Dont make the mistake of believing that the truth of another person is necessarily your own truth. This adventure is about being authentic.’

This!

You are your biggest competitor. Try to be better person than what you were yesterday. Work hard for your good grades other than comparing it with your friends. Work more than what you did last time. Break your own record!

I know getting over this practice of comparison is quite difficult but we can always try. This quality might be instilled in many of us since childhood. So, it will be a time taking process but we can start from today itself… Stop yourself when you compare yourself to others and try to realise that it’s not right! You are unique!

Let me know your thoughts on comparison? How do you feel when you are compared by some other person? Is it healthy to compare?

47 thoughts on “It’s unhealthy to…

  1. It’s absolutely true one should not compare himself/herself with any other for anything bcoz comparison one time gives happiness but not for long time….. This small time happiness can be converted to sadness , guilt and jealousy if other would rise more…..
    So try not to compare and stay far maintaining 2 feet distance with the person who spend time in comparison πŸ˜…
    The key to success is “Don’t compare ourself with other just check that how we ourselves are growing more and more day by day….
    Awesome blog… πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘

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  2. Awesome post especially that pic says everything!! ❀️
    I’ve always been compared to others whether it’s about my studies, behavior, looks, clothes or literally anything. They never understand that everyone are unique in their own way!! ✨

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  3. Even I have the habit to compare myself from others sometime and now I am going to try to get rid of it .
    I like the way that you are trying to explain. Good work πŸ‘πŸ‘

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  4. Thanks honey for being so brave to clarify this.
    This is avery important issue to discuss and remove one of the reasons of inferiority complex.

    Thanks beta on behalf of so many people.

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  5. Very true and and a healthy blog..your lines ” comparison is healthy for taking inspiration and learning from the other individual. There is no one superior or inferior. Everyone is unique on it’s own way. ” says it all…thanks 😊

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  6. We are all born with a unique genetic blueprint,which lays out the basic characteristics of our personality. So, never compare yourself with others (Humble enough to know I am not better than anybody & wise enough to know that I am different from the Rest. )
    Beta you are really unique personality…….
    Always proud of you beta….

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  7. Healthy comparison is good. It allows choosing right people out of the crowd.

    Comparison depends on intentions of the person. If someone is trying to help you, that’s good. I think a consultant can give a better advice than a random person.

    I don’t like the people who judge by my look and body. I’m not too much bad looking. I like the people who are open. They hear me and respect my individual presence.

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  8. It is absolutely not healthy to compare yourself to others. But we all do it, with our siblings, our friends, even our collogues. I guess we all just want to be the star that shines bright

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  9. I love that picture of the rulers! It is easy to get caught up in the things other people do and think we need to do them too. We are each unique, with our own beautiful gifts to share with the world. Let us each share them in the way we feel drawn to. Thank you for this wonderful writing of yours. ❀

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  10. Yes, comparison kills originality..kills innovative spirit..kills creativity…but being human we cannot strictly cut off from this point…at some point we always end up comparing people or things …not a good habit to keep…aim should be to keep it to the minimum..
    Stay blessed πŸ™πŸ˜‡

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    1. I agree to u… Elimination of this quality is not possible but we can always try to comment according to circumstances… Thank you for sharing your thoughts! πŸ˜„

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